Strength received …
I have been a recipient of this gift from my momma throughout my life. She was constantly giving me strength through her words when she spoke to me and let me know that things would be fine. She would then re-assure me with the reasons why.
1. I had the love from her and may dad
2. Even though it is hard I must not give up
3. Stay strong and focused
Her actions were powerful. The strength she showed handling a household of 4 kids. Being able to encourage all of us with a smile; that is strength. If she was ever to read this she will not remember it that way but that is what I took from the words of encouragement that she used to give me and my brother and sisters. She is a strong woman and always perseveres through it whatever the obstacle. I have always tried to use her strength as my own, and now I try to pass that knowledge on to my own children.
Conversations in relationships are tough. In a loving and binding relationship where there are passions and different attitudes. Things are said; at different pitches and tones. It is up to the two in the conversation to get what they need from it. The conversation is the main part of the relationship.
There are a lot of people and probably couples that could benefit from easing down on the attitude and tone. I was trying to have what I thought was a simple conversation with my wife the other day.
During our talk I had gotten so passionate about it my voice was rising in pitch and I was animated while trying to describe things to her about my decision to continue on with more education. She told me that she didn’t even know what she would go back for. If she was to go back. She let me know that it felt to her like I was trying to force her to do something she wasn’t even sure she wanted to pursue. I didn’t feel like that I was doing that. You know what she said to alert me of it. She told me my tone and body language made her feel like I was upset that she didn’t want to get her master’s degree. After she let me know that; it gave me the necessary attitude adjustment to be that comfortable space that she could engage in the conversation again.
I don’t think I would have been able to be talked down that easy in the past. Probably would have blown up even more. When you care about the other person though you will make those adjustments in your life and your character to make them feel loved and comfortable.
If I described you in some of your conversations . Whether you are the aggressor or on the receiving end don’t be afraid to speak up. If the environment isn’t one where you can speak up, then you know you shouldn’t be there in the first place. Simple trick for simple conversations.
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Be strong my two young women, always be sure of your surroundings and who you are giving your time to. Don’t focus on the things that have already happened look ahead to the changes that you are making in your lives and let them be the guide that pushes you ahead.
As your dad I always want the best for you young ladies. I have watched you as a small piece of me throughout your long lives. Now you two have new pieces of me in your kids. Be strong women and guide them with the same strength I have always tried to guide you guys with.
Daddy loves you
Carolina vs. Denver
Pretty good game so far. Would like to see more of a running game from Cam to open up the throws that will open up the game for the Panthers.
Denver the Panthers have to control him with that smothering defense. He must stay contained if we are to win this Super Bowl.
I am hoping that they pull it out; That would be more than great for us in the Carolinas.
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A man to me is someone who is looked upon as a righteous person. He does things that aren’t asked of him to help the next generation succeed. There are few men in this world that still hold true to this frame of mind. However there are not enough of us out there. The guys that always have an encouraging word for the youngsters. Whether it be helping them with confidence in a sport or just getting the confidence to try something new. As I grew from a young man to a man there were several guys that helped guide me on my path along with my dad. There will be mistakes and a lot of them. What we and the mentee has to realize is that as long as you are trying and being positive you can always be redeemed.
There are those young men that think they know. It is up to us who have been through a few things to a degree to be the strong soldiers and let them know when to be quiet and listen. This is certain you cannot hear if you yourself are speaking.
If and when they don’t listen and somehow they end up in a tragic situation. Then instead of being a student of life from mentors and true men, you will now have to learn more by trial and error. Still a student and maybe from those same mentor’s. Now though there are more difficult obstacles that wasn’t there earlier. Some of the conversations to himself might go like this. “He was telling me the truth and I didn’t want to hear it”. How am I going to dig myself out of this one? We know how though, you get a shovel and start digging. Once you start digging yourself out, don’t let anyone try to shovel more dirt back on you. Meaning if you have paid your debt to whatever your indiscretion. There will be people who will always try to keep it in the forefront. Don’t let them make the change wholeheartedly. That could mean that you have to get new friends or change your life habits. It will be worth it though.
There will always be those young men that for whatever reason want to excel at doing wrong and evil things.For those young me there is a place for them too, most end up in a hole somewhere. Whether it is a grave or solitary confinement.
To those guys that may have those thoughts or are already in a hole of the correctional facility. You can change too. There will times when you think everyone is just picking on you. Remember though this is the path that you took, instead of choosing the higher road with several inclines. The path you chose was the one that was quicker going in the other direction but had a lot of obstacles and pitfalls. Like I stated above it will be hard but not impossible.
Jesus made a way for us all, just follow him and all will be just fine. He is most righteous.