Marital Blessings Continued

Talking on the subject of submission to one another is always the best way. I think that we as humans put so much emphasis on what the woman should do and not think so much as to what we as men should do for our women. We should make them feel comfortable, safe, and wanted. It is up to us to make sure that they make a path to Christ and join us in that walk with him. One of the best blessing that God has given us in marriage is the gift of speech. With it we can ask things of one another, we can request things from one another, but we must not ever demand anything from one another. This is disrespectful and will be received just as it was given, like the anger and resentment that was used to spout those words you will receive the same back.

If we are to be successful in our marriages, then we must use our words. I must use my words to build her up, not tear her down. I was at one-time was sending Praise and Uplift texts to my wife letting her know what I noticed about her and how much I respected her for it. Life and family has since slowed that down but when I remember you can believe that I get something to her that will keep her spirits up. I cherish her and the strength that she brings to the marriage. These are the things that we must do in order to strengthen each other. Outside forces are going to try to tear you apart and will if given the chance. You as a couple must fight together to ensure that the bond you had on our wedding day still exist throughout the time of your lives. I know our marriage has taken it shots but we are still here and trying to maintain that bond. As we age their will our parents aging and us needing to help there and kids getting married and them trying to hold their bonds together as well. All of this will try to make a wedge between the two of you. We must hold strong and keep the communication lines open with one another’s spouse or partner so that we know where we stand and what is going on.

It is our blessing to outlive our parents and if we have the means to help and aid in their aging process then do that whatever that may be. If you cannot afford to do so financially then do what you can to help it don’t make it have to be a financial burden to your family. Even if you can afford it again communicate that with your spouse or partner. All of these blessings may not seem like blessings while they are happening but we must all remember that we are going through this portion of our life to be a blessing to someone else at another time. Being married is a huge blessing, so its best to be happy and cause the devil pain and shame. Show your strong Christianity traits and spread the word of how Christ has blessed you and your family. That is a purpose that we must bear and live. So be that blessing to someone today.



Explanations of the implications of The New HB2 Law

The new law is a force that has to be reckoned with. Reading over a note from my company’s CEO that states that it added discrimination instead of deleting it sounds awfully wrong. Add on the fact that what is being publicized is about the use of restrooms by different sexed individuals just creates noise to the real issue at here. It is another ploy to keep you from thinking about the issues and worrying about the noise. The noise in this case is not as important as what is not being publicized. We have to get this out into the view of everyone.

This bill, which recently became law, declares that state law overrides all local ordinances concerning wages, employment and public accommodations. Under HB2, state law now prevents local communities from passing their own laws prohibiting discrimination against any group that is not named in the state law. North Carolina cities may not pass any law prohibiting discrimination based on, for example, sexual orientation, in public accommodations, employment or pay. Further, HB2 stipulates that people must use multiple occupancy restrooms consistent with the sex specified on their birth certificate, regardless of the gender with which they identify.

The big one here is the restrictions it puts on employment or pay in NC. When it comes to those things bathrooms are the least of my worries I am not sure about the rest of NC though. Looking at some of the NEWS footage that has been put on television people are more outraged about the bathroom issue than with how it can affect their employment rights as individuals or even their pay. NEWS outlets are there to report the news they do not however break down the laws that could be of importance to you. It is up to you to perform that for yourself. If you are able to understand what is written to give the information away freely and update the masses. So that they can know as well. I have researched it and I now understand it and I have the words that helped me understand it listed below in this blog post for you to see for yourself. I looked through several media outlets and the wording was different but the same content was implied. I chose the easier to read one here.

Law professor Brian Clarke had this to say:

Many have reached out to WBTV for a deeper explanation of what the law means.

“HB2 affects everyone,” said law professor Brian Clarke. Clark said if you face discrimination at work, you can no longer go straight to the courthouse and sue your employer.

“Trying to put it in normal human terms rather than in civil procedure terms – it’s much easier to file a case in state court,” Clarke said.

HB2 delivered on what state lawmakers promised.

“It creates a state-wide non-discrimination ordinance and public accommodations which we’ve never had before, which is a perfectly good thing to do,” Clarke said. “But it, of course, limits the protection categories to race, age, national origin, religion, color and biological sex to avoid any potential expansion of that in the courts.”. He goes on to say that the law goes beyond the stated goals. “Then it deals with employment, so it deals with things that are utterly unrelated to LGBT rights, to bathroom usage, to public accommodations. And it deals specifically and directly with employment,” Clarke said.

The law addresses the minimum wage, and does not allow any local government to set a minimum wage.

“The legislature took that power expressly away, so forbade any local government from raising the minimum wage beyond what federal and state law require,” Clarke said.

Clarke teaches employment law at the Charlotte School of Law after being an employment lawyer for 11 years. He says one sentence in the law was very big.

The law states, “This Article does not create, and shall not be construed to create or support, a statutory or common law private right of action, and no person may bring any civil action based on the public policy expressed herein.”

“In a very hidden way, it eliminated the ability for employees in North Carolina to file claims under state law for employment discrimination on the basis of race, sex, national origin, color and age,” Clarke said, “And that’s a right that North Carolina employees have had since 1982… and it’s gone.”

Clarke said North Carolina is now only one of two states that don’t provide these employment protections.

“Mississippi has never had a state anti-discrimination law. We had one and had one since 1977, but now we don’t anymore. The words are still in the statute book but there’s no way to enforce them,” Clarke said.

Proponents of the law point to the federal protections, but Clarke says the remedy under federal and the old state law were not the same.

“Under federal law you have 180 days to go to the EOCC [Equal Employment Opportunity Commission]. Under North Carolina law, as it existed before HB2, if you were fired based on discrimination you had three years to file that claim. You didn’t have to go to any government agency you just went and filed your claim at the courthouse,” Clarke said.

The old state law also allowed an employee to file within three years versus the federal law that state within 180 days. Also, under the federal law, Clarke explained there are caps on damages up to $300,000. The state law had no cap.

“I was a management side employment lawyer for more than a decade, and I can’t see the ‘why,'” Clarke said.

A couple of weeks ago, Representative Dan Bishop – who drafted the law – said the federal system still protects people. Governor McCrory has also said HB2 does not take away any rights.

Clarke disagrees. He told his students that the lawsuit the LGBT community has filed could only allow the courts to overturn the parts of HB2 dealing with those rights.

“Even if that lawsuit is successful, the rights taken away on the employment side of things are not going to be affected,” Clarke said. “Those are the law unless they are specifically repealed.”

North Carolina has even been poked fun at because of this law which makes the slap that was given to us by this law even greater. Comedian Trevor Noah had these comments and more to say.The Daily Show with Trevor NoahGet More: The Daily Show Full Episodes,The Daily Show on Facebook,The Daily Show Video Archive

I can’t see this law being a success. The rights being taken away on the employment side alone warrant it being quashed and re-written to properly reflect clear changes that have to do with the LGBT community only. Leave the other pieces of legislature out of this. These things should be separate and not lumped together but as I said the LGBT portion of the law was just white noise. The other was just supposed to slip in un-noticed. NC this is the real reason companies are not coming to NC not because of a bathroom law but because of discrimination and employment laws that are within this law as well. I hope we wake up and get a repeal for this law. This is crazy.

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Welcoming Marriage Blessings –

Very Welcoming and Thankful of Marital Blessings

These are the words that I speak to myself when I feel run down from different situations that a dad, husband and friend must shoulder. Jesus I need you. I need your wisdom and guidance. hqdefaultI need you to walk with me through this time, I have no need for you to strike the desire from me at all. I want to be able to understand and withstand the challenges that I will face going forward. I know with you in my life helping me to become a more righteous person I will succeed. I am more than just a conqueror I am a child of God. I will overcome what is thrown at me and my family and be stronger for having gone through it.


I do wish at times that this burden I am about to share was not mine but I do not wish it to be taken away now that have it. I only ask for the strength to withstand it, the knowledge to overcome it, and the words and platform to help another who may in the future have to go through something like this.



There have been things that I have gone through in my life that I know were self-inflicted. I have taken things that didn’t belong to me, I have sped down the highways of our state, I have said things against others. All of those acts are things that will have repercussions involved with them; meaning I will have to deal with what happens from those actions that I did. When you feel that you, yourself haven’t done anything to warrant an action being placed upon you feel attacked but you don’t know where the fight is coming from, so you can’t really defend yourself. Well that is what it feels like when you are in love with your spouse and it is not reciprocated in the fashion that you send it out. Here is more background on this type of issue. Everyone has a certain way of giving and receiving love. Everyone does whether you realize it or not you do. Knowing that and moving forward with the conversation say you are trying to make sure that your spouse feels loved across the entire spectrum. From this vantage point you feel accomplished and confident that you are putting the correct vibes out into the world to receive hopefully what you need from your spouse. OK here is where it gets sticky at. Even though you thought the love that you sent out was self-explanatory, what you expect to get back may not match what you sent out. The reason for this I have found is that your spouse has a different way of expressing their love towards you. Even though you send everything out; the gifts, acts of service, the conversation and words of affirmation, the affection and physical touch, and quality time. They may only need a couple of those to feel loved. Well say you need words of affirmation but are not getting them from your spouse. stock-photo-she-prefers-read-126242366A conversation needs to happen same thing with any of the other languages of love that you need. I am a person who likes to spend quality time and show affection and physical touch with my spouse. Well my spouse likes for acts of service to be performed, meaning helping with the boys, cooking and cleaning and getting to those things that she cannot, and spending quality time as the second narrative for her to feel loved. Well I have sent out a lot searching for her language. Found out that she is receiving what she needs to feel loved. I on the other hand because of the problem we have may only receive a little of what I need and this over a period of time can build up and cause a rift if not talked about. stock-photo-unsatisfied-couple-problems-troubles-in-bedroom-lying-in-bed-insomniac-husband-wife-301507700I am not a relationship expert and do not claim to be at all. However, the practices that we all can do are so simple. Just having a conversation about how you have been feeling lately. The conversation should be uninterrupted and the spouse that is speaking never should be judged for those feelings. The other spouse should listen intently. Then the other spouse gets to let you know how they are feeling and you should listen intently. If there is anything that you know of that can be changed pretty quickly for your spouses benefit do so. If it will take time and some healing on your part needs to take place, then inform your spouse of it. Again allowing conversation to keep the spouse knowledgeable of your intent for the relationship.

We have been in a continuous loop for a while where we didn’t know what the other needed to feel loved in our marriage. Now that we know there are a few difficulties that will need to be worked out. There will need to be a third-party involved at some part for myself, I know this much already. I also know now that my spouse doesn’t believe. I don’t believe that she doesn’t want to but she really needs help to adjust her thinking from self to Christ. Once she gets there she will begin to see the wonderful grace that is given to us all. Conversation has really just begun for us but I am sure there are others out in the world that have this portion of their relationships down cold. It will take patience and planning to have this work for us.

I know though as long as I hold out hope for us we will overcome this together. There haven’t been any transgressions against the other or anything like that just an array of emotions that have gone unchecked for too long.stock-vector-vector-heart-flowed-from-unrequited-love-400171984

The conversations we have had are about what I need from her. The need for physical touch is what I need, however she is not a willing participant. I have found out that she is a woman who suffers from no libido or no sex drive. This is posing a challenge for me being a man who would like to have a physical relationship with his wife. There has been earnest talk about what can be done but talking to a person with this affliction proves to be very difficult. You see they don’t have any understanding anymore of what this means because they themselves no longer desire it. So you can imagine the conversations that we have surrounding this issue. I have tried several times in tears to let her know my feelings. Again without a desire for it herself she really has no emotional attachment or anything to me or our now non-existent sex life.


The things that I have found out are very alarming surrounding the female libido.

30% of women age 18 – 44

45% of women age 45 – 64

80% of women age 80 and older

The physical dips could be tied to a number of things, other than just physical desire. While for most women, the disappearance of a physical relationship could be due to a demanding lifestyle (high demand on a personal time that leaves them feeling less than rockin’ in the marital bedroom). Once a pleasurable physical relationship goes out the window, it tends to make becoming physical with your spouse even more challenging to work through because negative associations can pile up from stressful encounters. The problems that we are experiencing could be because of a few of the items above that I listed. Whatever the reason you two should follow-up with another. Support one another whatever the reason now our problem is because of no sexual desire or physical touch from my wife.

For your issue it could be you the male of the relationship with low testosterone, erectile dysfunction, or you could be over stressed from work. Again any number issues can plague us as well. With conversation and support from one another and an adjoining life with Christ you can make a strong and righteous link back to one another again. The research which is hard to find on women is there in black and white in some of the medical journals. This is going to be a huge problem for the faithless if something is not done. Faith in each other and Christ has to be what strengthens you. I have a strong faith today, I also know that at some point I will need to go and speak with someone about the issues I am having with not having a physical relationship with my wife. The thought of it makes me second guess my strength. Being strong does not mean that we shoulder everything by ourselves, we have to be able to share our experiences. This helps us in our healing and may help someone else later.

So this is not a problem just for us but for our son’s as well. I think constantly what to tell them if they confide in their father about such an issue. I want to have some sort of resolution for them other than just buckle up son. It is a helpless feeling that seems to have no end it really is. My spouse does not offer any conversation about our issue only saying that she just doesn’t want to. This drives me crazy because it is not like I am asking for her to be physical all the time. I want the quality of what sex and being together brings to a relationship. That closeness and tenderness; all of it has dried up for now. I don’t question why I am still here in the marriage because I made the vows to her and our lord and savior to hold them true. Couples there is no resource on the internet, there are only people who wish to sell you something for your spouse that probably will not work. The best efforts that I can think of have to come from within each of you and your walk with Christ. If you have not begun to walk with him and are in this situation there will be a limitless time of hopelessness. As far as the internet goes you could probably find people there to talk about the problem with. That is about it. aid339172-728px-Increase-Libido-Step-7I can tell you this to get a resolution about the problem the best person to speak with about the problem is the person in the relationship with you.

I know it may sound very cruel and hard what I am personally going through. We all have things that we have to bear in this life; this just happens to be mine. I did not write this for sympathy but as a testimony to being made stronger to be able to be tested through this trial. You cannot give up; to give up is to admit failure, and to admit failure without having exhausted every option is just cowardice in my eyes. I will continue to work on this with my wife in hope that a resolution will surface for us. When it does we will be happy to share with the masses. I am sure for those of you that are walking in faith as I am, that you know this will not be an easy task. Saying you have faith is easy living faithful is the trial and where the blessing will come in at. Anything that is truly tested is always made stronger for it.

Thanks for reading there will be more posts on this so check back,

Starting New Life Ventures

Our oldest son is preparing to leave the nest. He is joining the United States Navy. He is very excited to be heading into this part of his life. He talks about the travel, and the work he will be doing, how they have told him boot camp will be and what to expect. He is preparing himself and I for what will happen once he gets off the plane and arrives at the navy barrack’s. I personally  have feelings of anxiety, joy, pride, fear and love.

I am dad though.

He is starting his life and we are supporting him 100%. We hope that all of the lessons that we have taught him throughout his life and the conversations that he has had with other positive people along the way have staying power in his mind and heart. Those are going to be the lessons that will guide him through the first part of his new life. The fear that I have is my fatherly instinct to protect him. He’s a good kid not ever being in trouble and hardly ever leaving the house so to me he hasn’t grown-up yet or has he. His first tests of becoming a man in my eyes will be in the United States Navy. I know he is strong enough because he comes from me and we are strong in our faith. We haven’t always been that way but lately; lately being the last two years we have both undergone a transformation renewing our strength in our father above. His mom and I worry but again those are our worries not his. He knows the task before him and I know he will come out the other side stronger than when he went in.

Son be sure to respect your elders as you do at home and walk as tall as you can. I know you will make yourself proud. That will make mommy and me proud. this is just another one of those steps that I have been speaking of throughout your young life. Take it with pride and go get what you want out of life. Obeying the teachings of the Bible and us.

I love you son,


Kareem Abdul Jabbar on Donald Trump

Donald Trump the man has had numerous failings in America and has come back from those same failings like a mythical Phoenix. I do not believe that he has the ability to help America as a leader or as a whole. His ideals are very business oriented and not very explicit on world views either. To many of that has seen the blurbs of him on the television, we are mostly caught off guard to what he says and how he aligns himself with the world. He has no filter, he has no real political background, he has no worldly morality. His worldly morality if he had any would not have any thought of race or segregation at all. This man speaks of very violent things as if he is in the locker room with his buddies after a round of golf; but he says them publicly and on the news. Then after he has stated these obscene words and phrases, and has had a chance to see what he looks like, then wants to try to state that we who have seen it saw it wrong that we have taken his words out of context; it was not what he meant. Donald Trump is a real estate mogul, who at this late stage thinks he can help America as he has helped himself. Donald it doesn’t work that way what worked for you will not work for America. There are too many variables involved, to many different nationalities to contend with, to many different religions to deal with. Dealing with all that and then some is what a president deals with in the first 10 minutes of his day. You couldn’t even handle the questions and comments of a FOX analyst. You should really look at why you are running and if it is aligned with truly helping America or just Donald Trump. The policies and platforms are important for the American people to know what you stand for. Last time I heard you were still talking border patrol and keeping people out of America. Mr. Trump it would be great if you had a plan and some political knowledge. It would show clearly when interacting with the media, supporters, and protesters of your campaign.

Kareem Abdul Jabbar had a few this to say on the matter as well. I found this posted video on the Huffington Post Politics site. In it Mr. Jabbar speaks about Mr. Trump and his wanting to close Muslim Masques and ban Muslims particularly. Take a listen please?

This is not a candidate for America. This is a candidate for himself. Haven’t we had enough of this type of person in the White House. We stood for Change let’s continue to do so. Look to go forward not fall backwards. We all have a responsibility to this country just as Mr. trump does. With this type of person in the White House we will all have lost. If he gets the nod it is our own fault, we will have no one to blame but ourselves. When we ride our highways; we see on each of the signs on our great highways. “Let’s Keep America Beautiful” people. We must vote as a nation and ensure that we continue to move forward as one people. Mr. Trump and others like him want to keep the nation divided. Let’s not allow that. Mr. Jabbar echo’s what a lot of other people think.

Mom on the Brain

These are my thoughts and observations on having a wife that has wanted to be a mom for a long-time or a mom that doesn’t know how to be anything but.

It is not a good or bad situation; it just is.

Women when you finally become a mother it is probably the biggest blessing that you will feel as an individual. Individual that is a great word we are all individuals, yet we are coupled together as husband and wife. Coupled together with man, woman, significant other to significant other. At that moment you as a woman have completed an individual event; so it would seem. Aside from having a husband or significant other, there has always been Christ. Whether we have chosen to accept him or not, he has always been there. This new life will be dependent on you and your husband for everything. It is a new life that was created by you, your spouse, and Christ. How then is it that a woman, who is now a mother makes it become her complete mission to do everything for this new life? There is a previous union, right? How is it that the birth of this new relationship is put before the first one? How does your husband feel now? Is there communication or dialogue that allows for this to take place?

This is mom-on-the-brain at its best. mombrainSingle women have this as their cross to bear every day. They have no one else there to help with the burden of feeding, clothing, sharing the growing moments of the first steps and other moments. They are everything to this new life, and that new life is everything to them, it is understandable to have those emotions well up inside them. There isn’t anyone else to for her turn to.

Women that have husbands has this affected your relationship? If it has then how do you plan on fixing it? If not then great, you may need to open a meetup life group to discuss how to manage those overwhelming feelings of motherhood in other women. The Research on this topic before writing it was eye-opening. It could be one of the reasons why a lot of guys cheat or, at least, a real one. It is a real topic that happens. It is great to love your children and give them what is required for them to be active and independent. The question I am posing is what happened to the first relationship? How did it get in this state? Did your husband do something to warrant this treatment? The images posted in this post are poking fun at how mothers organize their day. To mother’s these pictures that are probably reminder’s of what they lost. Something to make them laugh and a needed light-hearted uplift. As a husband, I looked at a lot of these images, Momsbrain1-562x727 and didn’t see any mention of a husband’s section, or if there was a mention, it is small just as there is no space for yourself to have fun. I am a man who can handle what life throws at me. I know there are other men out there that are dealing with it too. Stay positive and supportive to your wives and be a damn dad to your children. It will be a long road that will be dark sometimes. Know that Christ is with you and will bring the both of you through it. You can win moms and dads, but it is going to take you both. If the love you have for one another is as Christ loves us, then you can make it. Win at all costs; be that light for someone else. There is already enough darkness in this world. Dads and husbands don’t look for anyone to fill any empty spaces in your lives, turn your attention to Christ and your wife they are the only other people in it with you. You three can come out of the darkness together.

It can only happen together.

This post is meant to stir the pot, if not then nothing happens. Let’s get started.

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To My Daughters

To my two girls; I was thinking that it would be great if you found the person for you. If you have found that person; great bring them by and let me and your brothers check him out. I want to meet the guy of your future not just somebody you are passing time with but a true partner. A person that is interested in you and what you have to say. A guy that will keep my grand children’s best interests first as well.

Hopefully one day you will know what it is to have that one person in your corner. It does take work though, it isn’t easy and takes a willingness to work at it from both people involved. You will know when you come across that one person, it does happen. It will just take you by surprise and you probably won’t know what happened.

As your dad I would love to see you guys happy and living as strong as you possibly can. That is what any parent would want for their kids.


March Madness Craziness Start Tonight


March Madness starts tonight.

Do you have your bracket or should I say brackets filled in? I have mine. Good Luck !!

Mine will probably be busted early hopefully not in the first round like so many other years.

My History of Understanding – Relationship Conversation


In my short time living as a Christian, I have found that it is not an easy life to lead. It is very hard living righteously and being the element of light for people to flock to. This is Christianity as I understand it; it is not a life of boredom as some may think. You can still have fun; instead of doing all the things that can wreck your mind and body. You now need to do things that uplift you and the Lord Jesus Christ. Using the gift or gifts that were graciously given to you at birth.
The fun that most were so in-love in their younger or present life before turning to Christ is problematic and life threatening. Most things that are considered fun in the secular world can actually take your life. Examples of things that can take life early are thrill seeking through drugs and alcohol, murdering for fun, sex with multiple partners. Those are only a few of the examples that can lead us astray if we allow them to. The things I have listed are a bit extreme but sin is sin; I could have added lying or playing a false prophet. That too is a big one but one that is so common for people to be sucked into. Deceit is very big and one that Satan has used throughout time.
That gift or gifts the you were blessed can be any number of things. However, we are not to use our gifts for personal gain they are to be given away to the world. We should all strive to be the gifts to the world that Christ has always wanted us to be. Selfishness is not an option in a righteous life, a walk with Christ is very fulfilling and noble. There will not be any fanfare for you; you may be ridiculed at some point to test your faith. Stay strong and know that Christ is in you already and that can’t be taken from you at any point.
In a marriage there is no place for selfishness, jealousy, and envy. What has to be there is trust, compassion, understanding, compromise, and love. Without those five things your relationship isn’t make it very long. The way I understand it is that the five things I have listed are absolutely necessary for a lasting relationship. If these elements are missing from your relationship how are you going to be able to relate within your relationship? Those five elements are what makes a relationships base to me. I understand this more now. Previously I was just like anyone else and thought that if the physical was there everything else would fall into place. Well the physical fades but those other elements must be present for the duration of the relationship. Did everyone get that “THE DURATION” meaning to the end of. If we try to stand on what we want, then we don’t get or understand anything. To relate we must understand and to understand we must relate. These are my 5 things for understanding a relationship today. You may be different and be able to make lust work “NOT”.
I understand now Jesus

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Just Don’t Wanna Know – Relationship Conversations

For those of us, men or women that are in relationships that are seemingly touch-less and you feel that you have done everything to ensure that your partner knows your heart. If you haven’t already, you should give that fight over to Jesus let him work that out for you. The arguments and the high volume debates will not help. It is up to the individual and Jesus to fix it.

Your partner may need to get outside help that does not initially involve you; stay strong in your faith and know that if the steps are placed in motion from the proper source, it will be taken care of, and the two of you will begin to heal. I haven’t been tight with Jesus too long, but I know from everything that I have personally read if we believe he can do it; it will be done. Like all people, some of us need the human touch more than others. Know that there are others in the world just as you are; fighting the same fight. I started the relationship conversation corner because when you have the feeling that you are not heard, you have a voice to share with others such as yourselves. The threat is real, and the enemy will try to break us if we allow it. I used to say that I was more spiritual than Christian. Now I know that being spiritual that is just the outer realm of becoming a Christian. I have carried burdens in my marriage that were just too heavy for me alone. I accepted Jesus again and started to pray daily and listen to what is in my heart. The strength that I feel daily; I know that he is walking with me. He is helping me carry it strengthening me and making me stronger. I don’t want Jesus to take the problem from me; I need to be made stronger to be able to deal with it. That is what I know has happened.
If you have to fulfill your need for touch, initiate it yourself go and hug your partner daily or give them a peck on the cheek. Do it; it will help it really will.

Continue through with your conversations requesting things of your mate letting them know your needs. Do not demand because demands only set you back to the beginning of the journey. There is a song that I heard in a movie that sums up what I am saying pretty well. It is from Tyler Perry’s “A Good Man Is Hard to Find”. I will place the lyrics below it was powerful to me maybe it will help you as well.

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Marvin Winans – Just Don’t Wanna Know Lyrics
Artist: Marvin Winans
Album: Miscellaneous
Genre: Christian

I hurt so many nights, I cried so many hours
Trying to make it right, I just didn’t have the power
You ignored all my tears in hopes they’d disappear
I tried to let it show

But I guess you just don’t wanna know

I came to you in love, I came to you in earnest
Could you possibly explain?
Oh my, my, why the flames? Why, why the furnace?
Oh, just needing to get it clear, I was hoping that you would hear
I tried to let it go

But I guess you just don’t wanna know

Now it’s true that God is always there
He said, He’d never leave
But at times the human touch is what I need
And if I had a dime for every time I tried to call your name


Some tell me I’d be wealthy

But I learned that I could cope, yes, I did
I discovered I, I could make it
Woah, in the nights so long and cold, so cold
You don’t know how cold
I learned that I, I could take it

Oh, now I wouldn’t change a thing
Not for the knowledge
Not for the knowledge that I’ve gained
I learned that I could grow, I really did, I tried to let, let it show
I did, I tried to let it go

But I guess you just don’t wanna know