Teaching Manhood and Continuing to watch and Learn from your Mentors

Manhood in the male community seems to be for sale right now. I say that because of the way a lot of our traditions have been modified to create an accepting policy for just any male “Any Male” no matter the belief system. Myself I have a few true men that I really look up to and listen to and respond accordingly to. I try to make sure that my son’s utilize those same principles. Young men today need to be taught I guess how to speak, I think.

The news has it really messed up trying to relate to that is not realistic.

Television would have the general people who get their news from them “NEWS outlets” believing that what has been reported is just how it is in the world. Those are sounds bytes from a small population of this country. Dads, and other men who have younger guys that look up to them need to always create that safe place for the younger men-tee to be able to speak up. Words have power and if young men won’t use them then their power is being taken from them, every minute they stay quiet or choose to allow violence be their voice.

Too long but I think I addressed what I needed to.

Stephen Curry the man

As a basketball player he has a bit of magic with him. In this era that is being played today he is the embodiment of what the NBA has become. The last couple of holdouts have left or are leaving “Kobe Bryant” and “Tim Duncan” even Kevin Garnett. All things are about change even the NBA. If the game was still being played like it had been in previous seasons a lot of the guys that are headliners now wouldn’t be.

Curry however is a part of this era, his work ethic is great and he is being rewarded for it. I am sure his dad is very proud of what he has been able to accomplish but also as the rest of the basketball is doing thinks about how much the league has changed. Has the changes been for the better and not just because his own sons are slight of frame and able to benefit from the changes in the rules. Being a dad we can have rose-colored glasses when it comes to our kids. Having held a position in the same work place but at a different era we all know he reflects. The league just as everything does changes. Stephen though has transcended a lot of the boundaries that many never thought he would. His believe in himself and his creator is what I think gives him an edge. He met his wife in a Christian camp his second coach was a Christian minister from New York. Faith is all around him and what he does.

The NBA is not a workplace where not believing in yourself is going to be beneficial to you. I mean if you do have the utmost confidence in your own personal capabilities, you will still need a lot more to be a dominant force in the NBA. It is what you do with the dominance that allows you to be special. Curry could be arrogant, glory hogging, and self-proclaimed basketball god. He does not carry himself that way nor was he raised to be that man either. To be a smaller player and be considered a dominant player is where you know he has a little magic and a lot faith. I like comparing him to Allen Iverson. No they are nothing alike physically but their determination and drive and their belief in the creator are almost picture perfect. To be a smaller guy in the NBA you have to be special and give the glory to the father above and that is what both of them did and are doing. Curry has taken the league by storm and showing what having faith in Christ will do for you. He has to believe in his self we all do; but when we see the things that we are able to do and we know we didn’t do alone and honoring the one who has held your hand through all of it is the best reward any of us can hope to see as an example. There have been a lot of bigger and stronger players but not many that have humbled themselves or the humility of Stephen Curry. He doesn’t care about the accolades he cares about playing the game the right way.

I as a fan only hope that he continues the same practices throughout the rest of his life to be that light that Christ has asked us to be; to bring the most guarded heart to Christianity. He is using his blessings to show the power of Christ.


Manhood – Meaning of being a man

A man to me is someone who is looked upon as a righteous person. He does things that aren’t asked of him to help the next generation succeed. There are few men in this world that still hold true to this frame of mind. However there are not enough of us out there. The guys that always have an encouraging word for the youngsters. Whether it be helping them with confidence in a sport or just getting the confidence to try something new. As I grew from a young man to a man there were several guys that helped guide me on my path along with my dad. There will be mistakes and a lot of them. What we and the mentee has to realize is that as long as you are trying and being positive you can always be redeemed.

There are those young men that think they know. It is up to us who have been through a few things to a degree to be the strong soldiers and let them know when to be quiet and listen. This is certain you cannot hear if you yourself are speaking.

If and when they don’t listen and somehow they end up in a tragic situation. Then instead of being a student of life from mentors and true men, you will now have to learn more by trial and error. Still a student and maybe from those same mentor’s. Now though there are more difficult obstacles that wasn’t there earlier. Some of the conversations to himself might go like this. “He was telling me the truth and I didn’t want to hear it”. How am I going to dig myself out of this one? We know how though, you get a shovel and start digging. Once you start digging yourself out, don’t let anyone try to shovel more dirt back on you.  Meaning if you have paid your debt to whatever your indiscretion. There will be people who will always try to keep it in the forefront. Don’t let them make the change wholeheartedly. That could mean that you have to get new friends or change your life habits. It will be worth it though.

There will always be those young men that for whatever reason want to excel at doing wrong and evil things.For those young me there is a place for them too, most end up in a hole somewhere. Whether it is a grave or solitary confinement.

To those guys that may have those thoughts or are already in a hole of the correctional facility. You can change too. There will times when you think everyone is just picking on you. Remember though this is the path that you took, instead of choosing the higher road with several inclines. The path you chose was the one that was quicker going in the other direction but had a lot of obstacles and pitfalls. Like I stated above it will be hard but not impossible.

Jesus made a way for us all, just follow him and all will be just fine. He is most righteous.